You cannot come up with solutions, overcome obstacles, and break out of patterns you've been stuck in if you take on the role of a victim. You must take 100% responsibility for everything that has happened and happens to you, even though circumstances and events were apparently or seemed to have been out of your control. Why? So you can be able to change your mindset and come up with solutions to the problem. Victims cannot come up with solutions to their problems and situations because it wasn't their fault and thus retreat into apathy, depression, and do nothing to better their situation. Trust me, I've been there and I guarantee most of you have too!
Change your mindset, take control, take massive action, and move forward!